I asked my husband a few weeks ago to help me with some goal setting. When I asked: “What goal do you think should I set for myself?”, his response had me doubled over laugh-crying. “Maybe you could work on un-clenching a bit,” he said with complete sincerity. He is so right, I do need that. I wouldn’t have ever come up with this particular goal, but I am grateful for it.
The Process
We all know goal setting is a great tool to accomplish whatever it is you are setting out to do. Often, the goal-setting process goes like this:
- You set aside time for the big think!
- You push it off 2 or 3 times because – life.
- You finally get to spend some time alone in reflection of your current state and where you want to go.
- You then lay out what goals you should set to reach the desired outcome.
This is well proven to be an excellent process, but a little too clinical for me. I do set goals privately, but I always set some with my husband too. I mean, I married him I should probably get his input. When you set your goals are you including the important people in your life as part of the process? These people (should) love you and want the best for you, they see you through this lens and can help immensely… If you let them. What goals would your loved ones set for you?
We often see goals for getting to the gym or staying on a meal plan. Why not apply this tried and true method elsewhere? Do you set goals for your relationship, children and family, travel, emotional wellness, spiritual growth?
As far as un-clenching goes, I’m working on enjoying a little more unstructured time, and trying to embrace the 80% solution where I can.
